How to Rise from the Ashes of Burn Out

As a rule, creatives err on the sensitive side of the spectrum. They put enormous amounts of pressure on themselves. Add in the trait of being the first born, a perfectionist—you've got a heck of a hot mess.
Tell me I'm not alone in my hot messiness, y'all?
Life comes in seasons, and I am learning slowly, ever so slowly, to lean into them instead of fighting them like Superwoman to keep all the plates spinning above me in perfect sync.
I almost hate even writing about this and cringe thinking of all the true Wonderwomen authors I know who are on hard deadlines, with husbands, with day jobs, with children, with ministries.

But burn out is not exclusive to one demographic group. It's not completely avoidable either since we're humans—not superhumans. What we have to do first, in order to regain some positivity and strength that burnout can zap from us, is identify it, and take one step at a time to rise out of it.

Identifying Burn Out:

  • Exceptional exhaustion
  • Lack of interest in your favorite things
  • Difficulty focusing
  • Immense anxiety/pressure when you even consider getting back to something you love
  • Immense guilt about not doing/being enough

I don't know about you, but I want to continually get back to what sets my soul on fire. On carving out moments to work on what makes me feel most alive—joyously alive.
What makes you feel most alive?
For me? It's writing.
Not that I don't love blogging, but I am an author first. An indie author, at that. Which means I set my own deadlines and make my own plans...which also means self-discipline is always a work in progress. But remember seasons. Seasons with deadlines mean I need to continually work hard to keep boundaries up. With everyone and everything—even if it means disappointing people. Chances are? If you're simply honest with well-meaning friends or coworkers about how you do appreciate the invite, you're on deadline and have to stay on task, they'll understand. That's always been my biggest hang-up—letting people down.
Can I drop a truth bomb that I need to majorly work on remembering?
We don't have to do everything for and with everybody just because there's the option. There's a fine line not of balance, but of boundaries, that look different with every season. Especially when you're coming out of burn out and want to make positive changes to regain some happiness.
Positive changes such as...

How to Rise from the Ashes of Burn Out

  • Make boundaries. Prayerfully.
  • You're allowed to say no.
  • Write out flexible and hard goals you'd like and need to meet.
  • Above all—be honest. With yourself and those in your life as to what you feel up to doing. You're not doing anyone any favors if you're not.


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